Ok, I didn’t stop caring completely about our wedding. I am still very excited! Ask everyone and they’ll tell you I’ve been a pretty laid-back bride. Most things have been checked off the to-do list, but I’m not stressing out about perfection or having my wedding day exactly a certain way (yet, anyway). If you know me, I’m type A about a lot of things, but when it comes to our wedding, I have this strange acceptance, patience, and calm about how things will go. I think it’s because of the following reasons.
Because it’s one day, about 10 hours.
(48 hours if we’re counting all the festivities and family time.) We’ll spend about six hours with our guests and about four hours getting ready. What I’ve heard is it will happen in a blink of an eye. And then we’ll be sitting in our hotel room exhausted and happy and asking if that really happened because it went by so quickly.
Because it matters the most to us.
People will forget what they ate at our wedding and the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses. They’ll never know how many hours we’ve spent planning the wedding and all the options we talked through. We know every little detail of our special day because it’s ours. All our guests will have are their photo booth photos, a thank you card, and memories to remember it by, and that’s all they’ll want. It matters to them, but as the guests of honor, it means much more to us.
Because it costs more than we want to spend.
What do we want to spend thousands of dollars on? A vacation. Weddings cost money, and we’ve accepted that we’re throwing an expensive, once-in-a-lifetime party.
Because I’m more excited about celebrating with my people.
My people! This wedding is for you. Truly. If we had thought about it for a while longer, we might have eloped on a trip. BUT the next best thing is celebrating with the people who help make us who we are, who we care about, and who will challenge and support us in our marriage. I can’t wait to smile at you all day, to eat cake with you, and to tear up the dance floor with you.
Because I’m more nervous about what comes after the wedding day.
I want our marriage to be more important and more beautiful than our wedding. We’re both flawed people that are ever-evolving. We’re committing to help each other be the best we can be while also committing to grow our relationship. That is no small task! We’ll have arguments and miscommunication. We’ll fight through the mundane day-to-day, keeping the fire alive, and various levels of expectations. But we’ll also have the opportunity to keep choosing each other, even with the messiness that life gives us and the messiness we create. Our marriage won’t be perfect, but it will be sacred and meaningful.
Because I’m more excited about my future with my husband.
We’re excellent people on our own and we’re even better together. I’m gaining a partner in life, someone who I can count on, who I can laugh with, and who also loves food and adventures.
What do you think?
We’ve been together for a few years but marriage seems like a whole other thing, right? It’s exciting and scary, but I think we’ve got the right mindset and tools to make this work.
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